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London Friend

If you live in England, we have two new Friday/Monday services – a support group and a counselling service as well as follow-up monthly online drop-in group. All of these can be accessed via a desktop computer, smartphone or tablet and are provided by Terrence Higgins Trust in partnership with the LGBT drug and alcohol service London Friend.

Online support group

Our four-week online video support group can help you better understand the role that sex, drugs and alcohol are playing in your life. If you find yourself stuck in a cycle of problematic sex, drug or alcohol use, this group can help you understand why that might be, and give you the knowledge and tools to make the changes you want.

The group will be attended by between six and 10 men, and the four sessions will take place from 7.30-9.00pm on a week night. The group uses a simple, free app that allows you to join and see other members of the group. You do not need to use your real name when you access the app.

The group will be provided by trained health promotion workers with experience of supporting men on these issues and behavioural change.

More information about the support group.

If you have any questions, please email fridaymonday@tht.org.uk or call 0808 802 1221.

To sign up, complete this registration form.

Online one-to-one counselling

We are offering a series of one-to-one online video counselling sessions. These will help you gain more control over the role that sex, drugs and alcohol are playing in your life and allow you to work on individual goals.

Perhaps you’d like to make changes around your relationship to sex, drugs and alcohol, but don’t know how. Maybe you just want someone to talk to about how you feel. Whatever your needs, our counsellor is there to support, help and guide your choices and decisions.

Your qualified counsellor will be a gay man who is trained and works in LGBT drug and alcohol support services, as well as in mental and sexual health. After an initial online assessment with your counsellor, you will be offered four one-to-one online video counselling sessions. They will take place at the same time and on the same day each week over a month. Each session will last for 50 minutes.

More information about one-to-one counselling.

If you have any questions, please email fridaymonday@tht.org.uk or call 0808 802 1221.

To sign up, complete this registration form.

New monthly online drop-in group

Our new drop-in group is a space for you to meet other people who have previously attended group work or counselling and who could use some support to maintain those changes. In the group you will be able to talk about how you are doing and provide support for each other going forward. The group will be provided by trained health promotion workers with experience of supporting men with issues around sex, drugs and alcohol.

Each month we will look at a different aspect of what people are struggling with and discuss how we can look at this in a new way.

The group will run online on the second Thursday of each month from 8pm to 9:30pm from August until October.

  • Thursday 10 August, 8pm to 9:30pm
  • Thursday 14 September, 8pm to 9:30pm
  • Thursday 12 October, 8pm to 9:30pm

This is not a structured course so you don’t need to come to all of the sessions and can drop in when it works for you. However as they are only once a month, the more sessions you can attend, the more you will get out of them.

To sign up, complete this registration form.

How these services work

All our online services take place via a free programme called Zoom, which allows confidential, encrypted voice and video communication. You will need to download a free app or a programme for your computer, or you can access it through a web browser, which also requires a small download. Be aware that you may be unable to use Zoom on a work computer if it does not allow you to install software.

Ideally you will need a webcam for a desktop computer or laptop, or use of an inbuilt camera on a tablet to allow you to see and talk to your counsellor/facilitator or other group members.

Note: Due to the nature of this service a laptop, desktop computer or tablet is preferable. A smartphone can be used but the small size of the screen may make this less ideal.

You also need access to a reliable internet connection – broadband or wireless (3G or 4G/LTE). The software we are using can be used on a wide range of platforms and operating systems including Windows, MacOS and Linux. Find out more about which systems the software supports.

How confidential are these services?

All personal information is confidential. We do not share it with organisations outside Terrence Higgins Trust and London Friend. Anonymised data will be used for the purpose of evaluating the project.

We have strict guidelines on protecting your confidentiality, and the counsellor/facilitator has had specific training on ethics and responsibility around maintaining confidentiality.

  • For one-to-one counselling, each session will be strictly confidential and anything you say in sessions will be kept between you and the counsellor.
  • For group support and the online drop-in group, each session will be strictly confidential and anything you say in sessions will be kept between you, the facilitators and the rest of the group.

We will not otherwise disclose personal information without your consent unless legally required to do so – for example to comply with the law or a court order, or where there is a clear safety risk to you or to someone else.

Will sessions be recorded?

No. The sessions will never be audio or video recorded for any purpose by your counsellor or facilitators at London Friend or Terrence Higgins Trust.